Bringing a baby into the world is a life-changing experience, and your body deserves time to heal. The postpartum period is not just about caring for your newborn; it’s also about allowing yourself the space to recover, both physically and emotionally.
At How2Mom, we encourage new mothers to follow the 5-5-5 rule; a simple, compassionate approach to postpartum recovery that ensures you give yourself the rest you need. Whether this is your first baby or you have older children at home, the 5-5-5 rule helps you slow down, embrace the moment, and prioritize healing.
How to follow the 5-5-5 Postpartum Rule?
5 Days In Bed: Full Rest and Recovery
The first five days after birth should be spent in bed as much as possible. Your body has just been through an incredible transformation, and now is the time to rest, recover, and bond with your baby. Stay cozy in your bed, wear your favorite pajamas, and let others take care of the daily tasks.
If you have older children, this is a great time to involve them in a way that keeps things restful for you. Consider:
- Reading books together—Let your little ones snuggle up and read their favorite stories while you rest.
- Pajama days—Make it fun by declaring an official “family pajama week,” where everyone lounges together.
- Breakfast in bed—Have your partner or a family member help your older child bring you a simple breakfast in bed.
Most importantly, this time is for YOU. Let go of any pressure to entertain guests, keep up with chores, or “bounce back.” Your only job right now is to heal and bond with your baby.
5 Days on the Bed: Gentle Movement & Still Resting
By day six, you might start feeling ready to sit up more and move around a bit, but the focus is still on rest. The next five days are about being on the bed—sitting up to eat, changing your baby, or even shifting to a comfortable chair in the room for short periods.
For moms with older children, this is a great time for low-energy bonding activities that don’t require much movement, such as:
- Board games or puzzles—Choose simple, easy games that you can play from bed.
- Coloring or sticker books—Have your child sit next to you and create art together.
- Baby introductions—Let your child “help” by singing lullabies or gently talking to their new sibling.
Even though you may feel slightly more energized, this is not the time to start household chores or overexert yourself. Stay on the bed, move slowly, and continue prioritizing rest.
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5 Days Near the Bed: Light Activity in the Bedroom
By the time you reach day 11, you might feel ready to do a little more, but the focus should still be on keeping things easy and staying close to the bedroom. This phase allows for light activity within the bedroom, but not beyond.
Some gentle ways to engage with older children while staying near the bed include:
- Picnic on the bed—Lay down a blanket and have a cozy indoor picnic with easy snacks.
- Stuffed animal storytime—Let your child bring their favorite stuffed animals and “read” to them.
- Watching a family movie—Cuddle up and watch a favorite film together in bed.
- Gratitude journaling—If your child is old enough, write or draw things you’re grateful for together.
You may feel like you should start doing more around the house, but don’t rush it. Your body is still healing, and overdoing it too soon can set back your recovery. Keep listening to your body, ask for help when needed, and enjoy this slow, gentle transition.
Frequently Asked Question about the 5-5-5 Postpartum Rule:
What if I can't stay in bed for the full 5-5-5 timeframe?
Life with a newborn (especially with older children at home) can make strict rest challenging. The 5-5-5 rule is a guideline—if you can’t stay in bed the whole time, aim to rest as much as possible and accept help from others. Even small moments of stillness can make a difference in your recovery.
Can I follow the 5-5-5 Rule if I have a C-Section?
Yes! In fact, postpartum rest is even more crucial after a C-section since it’s a major surgery. You may need additional time beyond the 5-5-5 guideline, so listen to your body and avoid lifting anything heavier than your baby.
What if I start feeling better before the 15 days are up?
Even if you feel good, your body is still healing internally. It’s tempting to jump back into normal routines, but taking it slow helps prevent setbacks. The 5-5-5 rule isn’t about doing nothing—it’s about pacing yourself so you can heal properly.
How can I involve my older kids while still prioritizing rest?
Engage them in quiet, low-energy activities like reading books, playing board games, or having a “pajama party” in bed. Let them bring you snacks, help with the baby in small ways, and make it a special bonding time for the whole family.
What if I don't have much help at home?
If family or friends aren’t available, consider preparing ahead by setting up meals, a cozy recovery space, and easy activities for older kids. Virtual support groups, meal delivery services, or hiring a postpartum doula can also provide extra help when needed. You may also consider a postpartum doula. If you are local to the Twin Cities, Michelle is our postpartum doula here at How2Mom.
What Are The Benefits of Following the 5-5-5 Rule in Postpartum?
Following the 5-5-5 rule allows your body the time it needs to heal properly, reducing the risk of postpartum complications like excessive bleeding, exhaustion, and prolonged recovery time. Resting in the early days also helps regulate hormones, supports milk supply if you’re breastfeeding, and strengthens your bond with your newborn. Emotionally, this period of intentional rest can lower stress, ease the transition into motherhood, and prevent feelings of overwhelm. By slowing down and prioritizing recovery, you’re not only caring for yourself; you’re setting the foundation for a smoother, healthier postpartum experience.
Healing takes time-Give yourself Grace
The 5-5-5 rule is a simple yet powerful way to honor your body’s recovery. Every postpartum experience is unique, and healing looks different for every mother. Whether this is your first baby or you’re balancing recovery with older children, the key is to rest, accept support, and give yourself grace.
At How2Mom, we are here to support you every step of the way—from postpartum recovery to birth education, lactation counseling, and birth and postpartum doula services. The early days of motherhood should be about healing, bonding, and embracing the journey. So take your time, stay in your pajamas, and enjoy those extra snuggles—you deserve it.
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